Slowing Waaayyyy Down
Just read a lovely piece by Mark Silver, advising those of us (in business or otherwise) who panic or get bound up when making certain money decisions to slow down… (the exact quote here):
"The first step is to just slow waaaaay down. The trouble with money is that it's tied up with our survival fears and it trips us easily into fight or flight mode, which of course speeds everything up."
I smiled at this for several reasons (not least of which is his always-appreciated reminder about connecting with our hearts to feel what's really true for us).
But also, because I just attended a 'proprioceptive exercise' class, which also included the advice to slow waaayyyy down.
In both scenarios, the act of slowing down can feel really uncomfortable at first. In the money scenario, as Mark says, it's because fear is involved. And I think, we are a culture that encourages and celebrates quick decisions and thinking fast on one's feet (a skill I admittedly never mastered...), over mindful deliberation.
In the 'proprioceptive' form of exercise scenario, it's because we don't necessarily equate going slow with being effective.
But the similarity - and the key to their power - is about attentiveness.
It lies in the 'listening' aspect. Listening to one's heart really does require slowing down, tuning out the mind chatter and the pressure of fearful voices. The heart whispers. And in it's own time.
The proprioceptive system of the body ('proprio', meaning, 'one's own'…, so, literally, 'one's own perception') is our internal guidance system.
It performs the function of keeping us in alignment. A highly sensitive aspect of the nervous system, using sensors attached to the all the muscles of the body (golgi tendon organs) it is finely tuned, giving constant feedback to the brain as to where our bodies are in relation to gravity… and making microadjustments that are largely under our conscious awareness.
But with practice, one can actually tune into this system. Why would you want to?
Well, for one thing, when we come to find we have restrictions in our range of motion - inability to touch the toes, or sit on the floor, for example - we come to accept that as our reality. We accept this 'given' that it will hurt or be difficult to impossible to perform these once simple motions. And so, we either expect pain, or avoid doing them entirely.
Or, when we do try to expand on the range, we might try to force our bodies into it - push past the barrier, so to speak.
But the proprioceptive system knows where an easier way in may lie.
By slowing waaayyyy down, it is possible to listen to this system, and allow it to take your body into movements that will bypass the resistance, unwind the patterns, and open up the structure. It knows where the alignment is to be found. Like the heart, it knows where the 'truth' of your mobility is.
There's something about slowing way down also - whether with making anxious money decisions, or moving the body in a mindful way, or approaching a relationship issue - that creates space. Feeling pressure is a sign that we've lost touch with how much space really is available... whether in our situations, our minds, our bodies, our hearts.
And as Mark reminds us, the first step to slowing down is taking a breath. And taking as many more as you need in order to slow down, feel that space, and listen.
Want to read more about using proprioception? Read these:
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