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Tuesday
Aug112009

How Do You Show Up?

It's Monday morning. Again.

Roll out of bed, down the coffee and toast, rush out the door to sit in traffic, mull over the mind-numbing tasks and irritating people that await you, and count the hours till Friday.

Is this your life? Or some variation thereof?

Maybe you don't have a job you wake up excited to get to, or even a job that requires you to be anything more than semi-conscious and mediocre.

But this is your life. Your singular, precious life.

Let's try this again.

You wake up. Gratitude for another day, another chance to make it matter.

You know it'll be challenging, even draining at times. This is not necessarily the livelihood you would have chosen for yourself, or maybe it is, but it's not always smiles and sunshine. Point is, you suspect that what you get from it is directly impacted by what you bring to it.

But you have to prepare mindfully. Every day.

I'm in a profession that requires being "on". I have to be present for my clients and their needs. If I'm going to see a number of people in a day, I have to have physical stamina. This means eating well, being rested, leaving my 'baggage' at home, centering, stretching, and having the room all ready when my people show up.

It's not always easy. I don't always feel up to being in that role, nor am I always as prepared as I should be. But I know that even if my clients aren't aware of my half-assed-ness that day, I feel like I cheated them a little.

And cheated myself, because, well, I know damn well how lucky I am to be able to be doing what I love. I don't want to squander the opportunity that I have.

But what if you're not doing what you love? Why bother preparing as if you do? Why should you show up for the Man?

Well, again, this is your life. Maybe something better lies down the road for you, but you have a much better chance of that path revealing itself to you if you are fully present to what you're living now. That goes for whether you're the CEO of a multi-national corporation (in which case, you're reading this? Wow!) or a burger-flipper.

These hours of your life count whether you're thrilled with how you're spending them or not.

Taking time to prepare yourself can have the benefit of making your "now" more enjoyable, more effective, and more useful to you than begrudging your currently less-than-desirable circumstances.

And if you're feeling particularly altruistic, showing up intentionally goes a long way toward affecting those around you positively... even if you're not aware of it.

My livelihood (and quality of life, really) depends on 'showing up' intentionally... what would you do differently if yours did too? (...a little secret: it actually does...)

Some suggestions in my next post...

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Tuesday
Feb242009

Breathing Through Resistance

In disciplines such as yoga and Makka-Ho, which require stretching, we are often guided to breathe into the places of resistance, tension and tightness. This is a gentler and more respectful means of meeting our limitations and bringing in patience without forcing the stretch, which can cause damage.

The other day, for no apparent reason other than that I was stretching at the time, I was thinking about this wisdom for use in regular life.

Having a moment to step outside the perspective of what was right in front of me, and looking at my life from a broader place, I could see areas that were open and spacious and flowing freely, and other areas that were stuck ... maybe even triggering discomfort when I thought about them.

But I knew from already testing this, that pushing against those areas only created more pain, more contraction and discomfort, and that 'doing' anything, or at least doing the things that I could only see possible in that moment, was not helpful.

So, I thought about approaching a stuck place like a difficult stretch. Just breathing into it. Accepting it as it is for now ... not necessarily letting it go, but when my mind would settle on it again throughout the day, as it always would, just breathe into it and let go of the irresistible need to push against it.

Somehow seeing a stuck problem as a tight hamstring helped lessen the magnitude and urgency of the situation, and reminded me that it's just something I have to work on slowly and with forgiveness to myself for getting into that state.

Are there areas of your life that you can reinterpret as tightness? Perhaps you can try stretching as you think about the stuck places, while you make the associations, and play with the difference between trying to push against the resistance, or just relaxing and breathing into it.

In the next post, I'll share an interesting way of gaining more flexibility by tapping into the proprioceptive system.

 

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Wednesday
Oct292008

Breath of Life

The other day I had my first experience with Ayurveda, the Indian system of medicine which claims to be the oldest in the world. The practitioner, a lovely woman named Alpa, who is also part of the holistic center that I work from, explained to me that Ayurveda means "knowledge of self", or "knowledge of life". She asked me what I knew to be the essentials for 'living the life', and waited for my responses with a sheet of paper in her hand, marked with numbers 1 through 4.

She listed the things I recited, such as healthy food, exercise, inward reflection... none of which she jotted down in the number one spot. What was I missing?

And why was what should have been the most obvious thing, especially as a bodyworker, eluding me?

I guess it was no surprise -- considering that the issue I brought to her was about support for my Lung meridian (which I intuited my primary challenge to be) -- that I was totally blanking on oxygen. We can go for some time without food, even longer without exercise, and go our entire lives without meditation, but we wouldn't last longer than a few minutes without air. Duh.

Alpa then took me through pulse palpation and a brief marma point massage (similar to acupressure or shiatsu points), accompanied by deep breathing exercises. "Breathe! Breathe! More, more, more! Now let it go..." she kept admonishing me, until I thought I might pass out. I didn't, of course, but I was profoundly aware, upon sitting up, of fully inhabiting my upper body for the first time in a while. It was amazing.

She then revealed to me that, during the shiatsu treatment I had given her a few days ago, she noticed that I hadn't been fully breathing. Me?!? Ahem. Ah, Gina, remember Shiatsu 101? Before all else, breathe.

But this is something we all forget. Sure, we breathe enough to survive, but for many of us, only just so. How much of our aches and pains, mental fuzziness, fatigue, anxieties, lowered immunity, digestive issues, and depression are a result of just not breathing properly?

And I was obviously becoming aware of this in myself. I had been noticing periods of breathlessness, upper body weakness, weird and vague flu symptoms that would come and go as soon as the air got drier, and periods of inexplicable sadness. In shiatsu, the Lungs are responsible for intake of chi (or ki, in Japanese), and for dispersing it downwards and outwards.. therefore governing the ki of the whole body. Fatigue or lack of vitality can be due to a Lung imbalance.

From a psychological perspective, and taken from the book, Shiatsu: Theory and Practice by Carola Beresford-Cooke: "When our Metal energy [Lungs and Large Intestine are associated with Metal] is healthy, we feel that we are individuals in a situation of exchange with the universe. Not only do we feel our own value, but we know instictively that we are connected to everything of value outside our own boundaries... Quality, worth, whatever we most prize, is "in here" in abundance as well as "out there" and we are secure in our ability to connect with it.

If. on the other hand, our Metal is out of balance, no such security exists. Perhaps we reinforce our boundaries in order to clamp down on what little we feel we have and to avoid further loss ... Or we may seek outside our own boundaries for an ideal perfection which we constantly pursue because of our own intrinsic sense of emptiness and a lack of worth."

How many of us does this describe, I wonder? Referring back to this earlier post, and observing our postural tendencies as a whole, I think we can safely assume that re-learning to breathe would be useful lesson for all of us.

Alpa reminds me that breath, prana, is life.

"And what happens when you don't breathe?" she asks me. "You die?" I offer, my face smushed in the cradle of her table. "That's right..."

She has assured me that after practicing these exercises for thirty days, I will notice a difference. I'll be sure to let you know how it goes, and be back to revisit this topic.

 

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