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Thursday
Jun172010

transitions and you

Summer and all that entails seems to finally be taking over.

In my shiatsu practice, this means not only futzing with a temperamental office thermostat that can't decide if I'm running a sauna or an ice cream truck, but also, the temporarily losing several regular mommy clients now trying to navigate new schedules, leaving less free time for them for luxuries like self-care.

This change of pace, as they've expressed to me, has been met with mixed feelings: relief from the lunch-making, sleepy-head rousing, school-bus catching, homework-chasing, never-ending activity routine. But also a little sadness over the loss of 'me' time; and in some cases, the challenge of entertaining bored children.

Summer rocks, in the opinion of many, but even so, it is a transition: a break from the normal routine. And no matter how welcome this can be, it takes getting used to.

And like with almost any shifting of the norm, the first thing to go is usually the self-care. Which is probably the most necessary thing during times like these.

In times of change, how do you stabilize?

I've talked before about the Earth element being associated with late summer in Chinese medicine, but also with the times between seasons .... the transition times. This is when we often feel most out of sorts and out of rhythm with our environment. Earth element governs the flesh... the muscles, the body .. stability, groundedness.. centeredness.. all things to be nurtured when life is in flux.

Summer's energy is very yang, and expansive... so much to do, so many directions to be pulled toward. And really, beyond even the seasonal changes, modern life itself at this time is so unpredictable, moving so quickly .. getting in touch with the feeling of being rooted will keep you from being overwhelmed.

Sure, I will admit I'm trying to woo back my wayward mommies and my world-traveling jet-lagged vacation-goers but seriously, whether you come back for some nice centering bodywork or not, be sure to take care of your physical body. Eat well. Stretch often. Do what you need to do to feel good in your phsyical body, which will provide you with safe haven and strength when all is mayhem around you.

Look on caring for yourself not as a luxury, or self-indulgence, or even pampering. (Ugh, do I hate that word!) No matter where you go or what you do, you have to live in that body. This is health care at its most basic.

It will help you get the most enjoyment out of your time during these months, and just maybe you won't be left feeling like you need a vacation after your vacation.

Wednesday
Jun092010

Survey Says....

In my last post, I mentioned how there are some of us on a mission to define shiatsu in ways that make it meaningful and relevant to the world at large, and hopefully establish its status as a integral part of one's well-being routine... rather than an esoteric, exotic luxury.

It would be remiss to overlook what the actual experience of shiatsu fans has been. I mean, I know how awesome it is, and how majorly it rocks. But it would help to inform our process of defining if we could hear directly from you.

So, here's a survey, created by Tony Brown of Worthing Shiatsu in the UK. Please note that you don't have to be a client of mine to participate... any experience with shiatsu will do.

It's short and easy.... and your input would be greatly appreciated! And you can sleep easy knowing you will be doing a great service to the Cause!!

Click here for the survey...

And thank you.

Friday
May212010

Thumbs Up for Shiatsu

There is a quiet revolution happening amongst some of us shiatsu practitioners.

A movement fueled by our passion for this amazing work, and a desire to elevate its status beyond just an esoteric technique, to recognition as an effective holistic modality, even unto a way of approaching life, if I may be so bold.

A powerful means of healing bodies and changing lives.

Readers of mine might have noticed this is how I approach shiatsu, and you can't imagine how thrilled I am to find other fanatics like myself  - (Hi Rob and Helen and Tracy and Tony and Andrew and forgive me if I left someone out...!)  - therapists who've been disgusted by 'shiatsu machinery', as if mechanical chairs could possibly come even close to offering the same healing and nurturing experience a trained and compassionate therapist can.

And, as Tony Brown nailed in his post, regarding those practitioners who've included 'shiatsu' among their litany of modalities offered, are they really getting it? Or just collecting a 'modality dujour' to give the people what they want and make themselves appear more, um, versatile?

This seems to be one of the few topics which incites me to rant.

Suffice it to say that for those us us among the faithful ... the ones who believe shiatsu is far more than just a technique, and who are disappointed by the lack of understanding within the mainstream about its benefits (not to mention confusing it with a small dog), as well as discontent with the very associations that are supposed to be promoting our worthiness ... we are taking matters into our own hands. No pun intended. Or maybe there is. Whatever.

Tony is hosting a blog carnival on his site, and has invited us shiatsu blogger types to weigh in on the deceptively simple question, "What is Shiatsu?"

I have a topic. I have a deadline. (May 31st.) And now I have to stretch my brain far beyond the elevator pitch and get to the heart, soul, meat and bones of this question.

I am fired up, to say the least.

Check back soon.

Wednesday
Apr142010

Can You Feel the Chi? (Cool, 'Cause I Can't..)

I got a lot of wonderful responses to my last blog post (most of which, regrettably, appeared in my inbox or on my Facebook page.)

But the most challenging and thought-provoking comment came through the blog itself, from a friend I made online about a year or so ago... one who was only then just thinking about a career as a massage therapist, and is now facing a challenge that I remember facing (and actually, still do on occasion).

I had to request a little clarity on one of her statements, but while I am still waiting for her response, I will offer a brief anecdote of my own.

I'm pretty sure I've said it here before, that I've never considered myself a highly intuitive type. When I started shiatsu school, I had the impression that it was just about pressing various specific places on people which the intention of having some kind of effect, and it was all just a matter of learning where. The idea that shiatsu was working with 'chi' and therefore, some type of unquantifiable force, didn't occur to me to possibly being a challenge.

Several weeks into the first level, when people in my class were raving about 'feeing energy', and 'pulses' and 'seeing colors' and all manner of esoteric whatever, I was thinking these folks are either completely full of shit, or I'm totally dense. I worried that I was never going to get this, I was never going to have that sensitivity, and maybe I was really in the wrong field. (I should note, that like Jessica, my commentor, I started with Reiki, but shall address that in a later post.)

I limped along, learning the meridians and the points, making like I was perfectly aware of what chi felt like, that I could totally feel the 'echo' between my 'mother and child hands', and I would spend countless hours  going cross-eyed as I fruitlessly tried to visualize the aura of my teachers up against the chalkboard.

I maintained this story to myself, about my energetic obliviousness, throughout the second level of shiatsu school, until I finally realized I had to at least start telling myself a different story. One that included the possibility that I'm not incapable of getting this stuff, I just haven't yet. And that it probably wasn't going to appear like a billboard with big blinking lights and arrows and a singing telegram, announcing, 'Yes, girl! You got it!'

That was a good first step.

Wednesday
Mar172010

Mother and Child Reunion

There's an aspect to the practice of shiatsu, particularly the Zen form, referred to as the 'two-hand' method.

Meaning that at any given time, the shiatsu practitioner will have both hands on the receiver.

Seems obvious enough.

But there is an intention behind what is actually a deliberate placement of hands.

While you will be quite aware of the business of one hand... the one giving pressure with fingers, palms, whatnot (referred to as the 'child' hand), you are only subliminally aware of the still presence of the other, known as the 'mother' hand.

The child hand is active ... doing the work, expressing curiousity, seeking out the tender and hurt places, and asking all kinds of questions. The part of your nervous sytem that is perpetually engaged with assessing stimulus for threat status (will this hurt? oo, that's tender; oh that feels good; where's she going next?) is tracking the motions and the activity. And while the the sensation of healing touch can be relaxing, there is still an element of 'being on alert' present in the receiver's mind.

Hence the mother hand.

Patience, still, stable, providing calm presence on another part of the body. Like the heartbeat drum... ever-present but eventually fading into the background with steady rhythm ... holding the primary beat while the more obvious melody can wander and play.

The mother hand connects with the receiver's nervous system relaxation response. The message is 'Stay calm, I'm here. All is well'.

She stays alert and present for changes: in the receiver's breathing, in muscle tension, in basic empathetic connection between giver and receiver.

While the child hand attends to the details, the mother hand listens and assesses the bigger picture, tuned to the body as a whole and how it's receiving the treatment. She advises whether to slow down, go deeper, or give space.

And with these two hands, an energetic circuit is complete.

From the receiver's body through the mother hand the hara of the giver, through the child hand, back through the receiver's body, in an endless feedback loop. It's an active and conscious conversation between beings.

All without saying a word.

Tuesday
Feb162010

God, Do I Love My Job

In case your notice of this escaped you somehow (in spite of the continuous twittering, blogging, facebooking and whatever else) I gave my Shiatsu for Lovers and Others class this weekend.

Two days, two locations, and much to my surprise, two full houses in each. (yay!)

In spite of the romantic overtones, being Valentine's Day and all, I did open it up to any combination of partners, because after all, this was shiatsu, not erotic massage or anything. But as it was, the enrollment consisted of eight married couples.

Couples (or at least half of the couple) who thought this was THE perfect thing to do for this holiday... learning how to give a shiatsu treatment to their partner (and then get one in return). And partners who were there more as a gift to their, um, wives (there I've said it) but still made a valiant effort, and for them I am doubly appreciative.

I did my best to make it special.

I printed up hand-outs and supplementary materials presented in these cool rose-embossed folders of pink and purple; I offered cheese and crackers, grapes, dates and chocolates (as promised!) and fancy-schmancy carbonated blood orange juice served in plastic martini glasses.

I made up a gift bag for one couple to to be able to reproduce the experience later... consisting of "The Book of Shiatsu", a special aromatherapy candle, some other stuff and a free shiatsu session.

And then the class.

Given the theme and the time constraints, I really had to distill into a few short paragraphs what I felt was relevant for the class to know, as the demo portion would take up most of the time.

I honed in more on the healing aspects of loving and therapeutic touch, rather than the particulars of shiatsu, but I found even that could have filled an entire weekend. Which is is very exciting to me, as the wheels are now turning in regards to an entire weekend workshop next year.

And I certainly wil be exploring this more in blog posts to come, if not a whole online course.

But anyway, it was a joy to me to see these people, most who had hardly even heard of shiatsu, kneeling by their partners, coming from their haras to give wonderful shiatsu pressure... sneaking in kisses and cuddles, while I tried not to grin too noticeably.

I learned a lot as well... remarkably how much touch is a form of communication (duh.. I know, right? But to see it in action..), and how much more there is to say about this vast topic.

Which I will. I am very excited. And again, very grateful for what I do and for the people who allow me to do it.

Oh look, pictures of happy people!! (I'm the shorty in the middle...)

February 13th, Lionville Holistic Health CenterFebruary 14th, Creative Healing Arts

 

 

 

 

Wednesday
Jan272010

Letters to a Young Therapist

(It's only take me almost three years to finally figure out that a great place to get blog ideas is in my search queries. Hopefully that person will return to find that there is now matching content...)

Here's one I discovered yesterday (and only caused me to chuckle a little):

"Can I make a living being a shiatsu practitioner?"

My first snide and unhelpful response would be:

"Define 'a living'."

My second would be:

"I'll let you know when I get there."

But seriously. Here's my advice .. ala' Rilke:

Dear Shiatsu Practitioner Wanna-be,

I would suggest first asking yourself why you're considering this as a livelihood.

Is it just something that sounds to you like a cool and glamorous way make some money? (It is, and what follows is not meant to be discouraging, but...)

The reality.  Your income is in direct proportion to your session hours. You work on 15 people in a week, you get paid for 15 people in a week. You only book one or two clients in a week (one of whom decides to cancel) and guess what?

It gets a little tricky concerning financial planning, and knowing when exactly to quit your day job.

"So, then, I just get a bunch of clients. I mean, I work 40 hours in my cubicle job. That's 40 times... (wait, I remember paying $70 for the last shiatsu I got)...  that's like $2800 a week!"

Easy there, friend.

First off all it takes time to build a client base. And by time, I mean hours, days, months tirelessly spent marketing and promoting yourself. Time spent building experience, and trust, and relationships, and a good reputation so others will help spread the word of how fabulous you are.

Time which you don't get paid directly for. Think of it more like ... an investment.

In addition to the 5 year statistic of how long it takes to get a business into the black, (did I mention this would be a business?) I think the rule of thumb is that for every client session hour, you invest an hour and a half of behind-the-scenes time: marketing (because clients come and go like the weather, and you gotta keep 'em coming in) client maintenance, bookkeeping, and quite possibly, learning how to do all that stuff to begin with.

So, good news: yes, it's a full-time job. But perhaps not in the way you thought.

Unless you work for someone else. In which case, they do all the leg work, carry the overhead, and you get paid less. Possibly for more hours. And less flexibility.

And regarding that you-get-paid-only-for-the-hours-you-work-on-people thing? It's physical work. Sometimes even emotionally draining and heavy.

And there's only so many hours you can do in a week if you want to avoid injury and/or serious mind-boggling burn-out.

And you gotta be on. Whether you feel like it or not. Whether you just had a fight with your spouse, or got cut off in traffic, or have PMS or whatever. Your client is counting on you to be there for them... to be their therapist. Not vice versa.

Sure, there are are superhumans out there ... maybe you're one of them.

But for most mortals, I believe, again, the rule of thumb (pun totally intended) is around 15 session hours a week, if you want to keep doing this for a while.

"But still, that's like $1000 a week!"

Yes, it is. Which, if you budget properly and learn good business sense you may then have enough to cover your liability insurance, rent, marketing, advertising, slump times, vacation weeks, sick days, continuing education, utilities, promotional materials, and possibly even some groceries!

Oh, and bodywork for yourself. 'Cause you're gonna need it.

"Okay, so why the hell would I want to do this? Can people actually make a living in this profession?"

Like I said, that was not to discourage you, but to get the point out of the way that it's not all sparkles and sunshine.

It is, however, about making a life, not just a living.

A lovely platitude. Yet this is why I asked the initial question: why are you considering this?

You may not even realize or have conscious intentions of how profoundly becoming a shiatsu practitioner can change your life. But it can.

Choosing this profession has the potential to give you much more than a job. Much more than a career.

It becomes, as the Buddha talks about, Right Livelihood: a trade that not only refrains from hurting other living things, but one in which you are dedicated to their healing and well-being.

You develop a sense of compassion and empathy for the suffering of others. You become aware of your own suffering and find a path by which to heal it so you can be of greater service, and regain your own sense of wholeness.

You enter into a profession that, at its profoundest level, is holy communication of the heart and soul.

You experience the joy of having helped another human being feel relief from pain and freedom from limiting patterns so they can live their lives a little more fully.

You can elevate your own sense of self-worth by what you now have to offer to our human community ... a skill of tremendous value that will never be obsolete, that will never outlive its usefulness, and that can never be replaced by technology (no matter what all those shiatsu chair ads may say.)

And you can sleep better at night knowing that this.... this is what you do for a living.

The monetary compensation is essential, yes, but as you can see, such a small part of the overall fulfillment picture should you choose this path for yourself.

Having said that, it is important that it be a profitable occupation for you, not least of all, so you can keep on doing it.

Once you have allowed your heart and mind to be given over to Shiatsu as a Life Path, you may find yourself making use of other related talents and gifts so as to expand on your practice.

Offshoots such as teaching, offering workshops, hiring yourself out for corporate chair massage, writing blogs :) and books. Creating art. Expanding your practice to such an extent that you can hire other people.

There will always be opportunities for expressions of the core healing message available to the creative and passionate person.

So, long answer to your short question:

Yes, it is totally possible.